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Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy

Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy is a mother of four children, the oldest was relinquished to adoption in 1987. She is a writer and editor and the Director of Social Media at DragonSearch, an internet marketing firm in Kingston, NY. Blogging since 2005, she hopes to see national Adoptee Rights laws in place and a complete overhaul of the unethical adoption industry.
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Musings of the Lame is a blog about adoption and my life as it has unfolded being a birthmother.

When I started Musing of the Lame in 2005, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I wasn't into blogging and didn't know any "bloggers" and it was long before 'social media' was a word I spoke multiple times a day. I just knew there were other Adoption blogs, and therefore, I was going to have one too.

Since early 2001, I had been very involved in online adoption forums and other websites and adoption organizations where I would spend hours writing about my deepest feelings and talking to others about adoption issues. At that point, the blog sounded like a good place to put all my writing, so I started blogging.

There are some things you should know:


I write the way I speak and speak the way I write. I suck at typing and I misspell all too often. Thank God for spell check. I'm not going to play games or get involved in drama. I will be 100% to both myself and you and I completely believe in transparency. I dye my hair and I have tattoos.. and I like to curse when needed. I have been "FauxClaud" online since the beginning. I still am. Google it. You'll see. What you see is what you get.

I'm not an Amazon woman or some Goddess; I am just one woman who made a terrible mistake and will do what I can to stop the pain and loss and grief of adoption for as many more a possible. I'm not hateful or angry or trying to push blame on the rest of the world. I am not a victim, but I am fighter. I don't believe in just complaining about something, I believe in doing.

I Am Not a Fan of Adoption

I placed my son for adoption in 1987 and you may feel free to read the whole my story on how I became a birthmother and placed my son for adoption. It was a closed adoption, but like many of the adoption agencies, now, they treated me like I was a queen with a desired product. Like many birthmothers of today, I thought that relinquishing my son to adoption was a very good idea. Like most mother's considering adoption for their children, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Kind of like blogging.

My Views on Adoption Since then Have Changed

  • I have since searched and found my son and we are in an adoption reunion.  That doesn't make it all better or a happy story. Nothing will. Again,  I have written out the search for Max who was placed for adoption . Most of that happened online and it was my great honor to share that experience and be supported by the adoption community.
  • I feel very strongly that we must restore adult adoptees rights to their original birth certificates. Please see the Adoptee Rights page for more about the fight to free adoptee records.
  • I believe that the language used in adoption is very important. I don't mince words. I don't try to make you feel warm and fuzzy inside. I usually do not attack people personally, though there are times I am driven to be ruder than I would like. I have a talent for making people cry.  
  • I do understanding that using the word 'birthmother" is demeaning and the origins of the word birthmother is a story of spin doctors, politics, social worker brainstorms and, believe it or not, anagrams. Adoption Language and SEO is important. I purposely choose to use the word birthmother in my writings because that is what people search for and how this blog can be found by the very people who need to find it.
  • If you want to see my "Adoption Resume"as I like to call it, you can check it out here and maybe be impressed.
Being involved in the adoption community and writing for this blog has been the single most fulfilling thing that has happened in SPITE of the lifetime of loss and grief that began when I called the adoption agency. I started writing for me. It's how I process what this life as a birthmother is like.

Where this has taken me has been an incredible journey. I have met some of the most wonderful people in the world and I get to call them my friends. I have gone to places I would never have gone to on my own. And, the biggest honor and gift of all is knowing that somehow, someway, I might have helped someone. If I can touch one person at a time, that gives me the fuel to carry on.

I believe the enemy is the adoption industry and I believe in working together to change it. That means adoptee, birthparents, and adoptive parents need to find common ground . I believe we are all responsible to put aside our personal issues and fix adoption for the benefit of all our children. I pretty much will work with just about ANYONE ( ok.. I won't work with the National Council for Adoption because I believe them to be EVIL and I'm right!)

For that reason I will speak to pretty much anyone and I am pretty damn good at it too.

I am available for media and print interviews, I will do TV and Adoption documentaries. I will speak at meetings and conferences. I can do a mean power point presentation. I write on other adoption blogs. I will guest blog. I will write for you, whatever it takes.

I believe we all have a voice and we need to use it. I don't ask to be paid, but travel expenses will guarantee that I can make it. Sorry, that will change when I will Lotto. More on my contact page for all that jazz. Twitter, Facebook, etc. I'm there.

Find me, friend me, follow me, link to me, email me.. it's all good.

Come on, Let's go. We have a lot of work to do!
"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has."
                               - Margaret Mead.
In Truth,

Claud~

Why the "Wild Things" Theme?


I named Max after the main character in this book. It is the theme to my adoption experience.  
My name,Claudia, means Lame.
I muse out loud. Get it.

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