See my Monkey??
He's in the sidebar. Click on him. He is a link. Read the Monkey story.
Now let's all be Monkeys!!
Yes, this is the theory behind adoption reform. Oh maybe it's a Monkey legend, but hey, I like it! The idea is that we all be the smart little monkeys and learn how to be ethical, show others the way, and one by one change societies view on adoption. Allow us moms to be real breathing, thinking, feeling, loving human beings. Validate and allow the adoptees to express their feelings of loss without forcing gratitude down their throats. Give the parents the strenght to say "No!" to questionable or unethical situations. Spread the word, talk the talk, walk the walk!!
And if we all do it, and share with others and they do it, then one of us will be the millionth monkey. And BOOM! we have changed the world.
Have a banana..be a Monkey!! And if anyone shares the vision, I can give you the code to the monkey too!!
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In other news...
My baby started pre-k today. sniff. I was looking forward to this all summer. I had it down. T would be at school for 2 and a half hours in the AM...both little beasts out of my hair. Quiet coffee and serious writting time...ahhh! And today was the day. I get up early now, my lazy year is over. I gt them dressed, washed, fed, cleaned, lunches and snacks packed, then we walk the 2 blocks to school. T goes first. His door opens at 8:20, then S who can go into Kindergarten at 8:30..and then freeeee..
And it hit me. They are gone. I have sent my babies off into the world without me. I walked home alone, to a quiet house, and ended up talking to the dog. It was freakiy. No one yelled at me for juice or cheese or fruit snacks at 10 am. No one asked me to fix the videos. No one screamed or cried or needed help. The dog went to sleep.
I missed them.
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Garin went to see Lou Reed tonight. I got home from work and was like "Where's the big child?" to Rye. And he replied, "He went to see Lou Reed" WTF? How come my kid now gets to have all the fun? I would have loved to see Lou Reed again. He doesn't even know who Lou Reed is! He doesn't appreciate Lou Reed! Unfair. I call bullshit.
Two weeks ago this kid goes out bowling with MY friends! We're all haning out at our house and it was time for Murry and Cookie to go bowling and then before you know it Garin is all "Bowling? I want to go bowling!" and they are all "Well come on..you got ten bucks?" and before I can think..they are gone! Pshaaa! Unfair!
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And there is something else I am forgetting to do tonight, but I can't remember. SOmething I wanted to look up? Or check out? Or something. It's annoying me.
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And does anyone know...what is the name of the gathering that people have after a funeral?? You know when everyone goes to the house and eats? I don't think it has a real name. At least I can't find it. I hate it when Google does not come through.
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Hey, do you like my Monkey??
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A wake or a reception is what we always call it.
ReplyDeleteIs it a reception?? Like a wedding?
ReplyDeleteAnd for me, the wakes were always before. 2/3 days of wakes, or viewings, and then a funeral..mass and burial, and then tothe house afer the burial.
After the wakes, we went out to the dinner or to get icecream becasue my grandmother always said that "You leave your troubles behind you"...you didn't bring the grief home.
Hmm..no wonder I am fucked up..lol
It is called a wake before the burial. I am fairly certain that the Irish have this down to a science. ( Well we do you know! Lotsa food, some drinks, and lots of laughter to remember our loved ones by)after is, well we just call it a luncheon. Cos yeah food will be had by all.
ReplyDeletemy friends in the african american community call it a "repast"
ReplyDeleteWOW!
ReplyDeleteHugs to mom....
there is a jewish name for it... i forget what its called i'll have to ask hubby.
ReplyDelete~butterflybyz
In the Jewish tradition they sit in "shiva" for a week after a death and mourn..so it's like tat , but smaller!! A shivette???
ReplyDeleteHi Claud, I am sure that it is called a "wake." In the Bible Belt South, the gatherings prior to and after burial are called the "visitations," which I always thought sounded like a haunting.
ReplyDeleteI think there should be wakes for the mothers after they lose a child to adoption. Maybe that would, at least, validate their grief in a more overt manner. Thing is, you don't leave that one behind you. It hangs on for a while.
I'm gonna go look at a monkey.
The gathering is called a wake. Now that the kids are in school you can finish your book.
ReplyDeleteRe. 'Wake' - I think the 'before' people are right.
ReplyDeleteBut I like 'auntie's' word, 'repast'. Don't know why, but it sounds celebrationary.
Thanks for the banana.
I was born in the year of the Monkey.
Hey Kippa..I'm Monkey too!!!
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm Catholic and the evening before the burial there's a rosary mass or a "viewing" if it's an open casket funeral. This is typcially just for family and close friends.
ReplyDeleteThe next day there's the funeral and then after the burial there's a reception or a wake (we're Irish). Needless to say, there's lots of food and alcohol served at these functions and, believe it or not, it's really not a sad gathering.
Wow, love it! Glad to be among your respected fellow bloggers!
ReplyDeletesitting shiva in the jewish world
ReplyDeletejust went to one the other day called an open house.
ReplyDeletecan't believe garin went to lou reed. i am so jealous. and i like to bowl too!
can't wait for the post on what you did thursday nite!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hope the conf was rad too