The "Oh she made me cry..." award goes to...
I read the following on Third Mom and broke into sobs.
I acknowledge your pain
I recognize that you were pushed to your decision by circumstances beyond your control
I am sad that I have the parenting experience that is rightfully yours
I love our children with all my heart
I hope you meet and know them one day
It was probably the most validating thing that I have read in a long time,especailly as we are on opposite sides of the "fence' so to speak...
And, really, a just exploded with waves of emotion...relief almost.
Just quite beautiful.
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Wow, that is beautiful. I'll have to go check out her blog.
ReplyDeleteyeah, she is neat, aint she? been reading her myself and added her to my links.
ReplyDeletecan we bottle and distribute some of that "amoms who get it" potion?
i know a few adoptees who could benefit from having an amom like thirdmom, marlene, dawn and my friend heidi.
i hate to throw a wet towel on this party, but if this adopter really "got it," she'd give back that child she took.
ReplyDeleteit's like a "I realized i helped coerce you and i know you hurt, but deal with it." type attitude she expresses here.
sorry, but i'm not impressed. she has no idea of the extent of the pain that she's inflicting every single day onto that natural mother, a pain beyond expression, often beyond bearing as so many resort to drugs, alcohol or suicide to try to cope with it.
Eh...I don't know Roadkill. I read her whole blog...she admits to being compeltely clueless. She has two older Korean kids...and right now has no one to give them back to...so maybe she can just afford personally to get it...but still I will take any small portion of understanding I can get.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it is like dealing with kids ( and not in an insulting way) but positve reinforcment...is better then punishment.
((Claud))
ReplyDeleteI can't say I cried or felt validated, but it's good that one more gets it.
Geez she only posted once on her blog. Pretty explosive and harsh if you ask me. Will check out the other one though. I need positive affirmation on the adoptive parent side. My amom took me back to guilt last night. I just can't talk or even acknowledge her right now.
ReplyDeleteOh I am not critizing Roadkill, Amy...I know her story very well and we go way back...and I can tell you this...don't judge Roadkillby her one blog entry...so much more to her!!
ReplyDeleteI'm just the old softy when it comes to positive thinking...and sometimes, rightly so, it gets annoying to some I know!
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