FINISHED!!
Evelyn Burns Robinson's Adoption and Loss The Hidden GriefFantastic Book!!!! Highly recommend to just about anyone.
First a very moving and personal narrative of losing her son, social conditions, the feelings of loss and shame.
Then, she goes into a very good dissection of adoption and reunion issues bringing in studies done by other achedemics to support her feelings and findings. The bibliography is huge.
And finially, at the end she ties it all together.the studies supporting what she lived.
Too many great quotes..I say buy it and read!!
"Society can no longer plead ignorance. Adoption has caused a hunge emount of emotional damage to an emormous number of people. It can be tolerated no longer. Those who are still ignorant of the outcomes of adoption have choosen to close their ears and their minds. Ignorance is not an acceptable excuse. There is overwhemling edvidence that adoption has been damaging for natural mothers as well as for adoptied children and it is essential for the future well being of families that we acknowledge those facts. Our moral awarness is continually growing. Policies and practices that once were acceptable are no longer tolerated"
And now I shall read and review yet another adoption classic...next..ahem..the Primal Wound.
On a sad note..WTF is wrong with South Dakota????? They did it. Abortion is banned.
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after you read Primal Wound, please , please read Coming Home to Self. It's the second book and explains a lot of the details and goes much deeper.
ReplyDeletePrimal wound is more a "what can happen" (although too many people read it and ge offended because they only relate, or won't admit they relate, to some of the issues listed) whereas Coming Home... is about understanding the underlying causes of the issues and learning to grow past the issues.
Wraith's right as usual. Coming Home to Self is so big and textbook like, but, there's lots of great stuff there.
ReplyDeleteEvelyn Robinson was at the CUB retreat last year and I found myself nodding as she spoke. She has the best take on healing I believe that I have heard -she and Nancy V - she was there too. Both amazing and wise women.
Love that book and love Evelyn. I have been in contact with her on and off since 2002.
ReplyDeletei have read that evelyn robinson says that even moms from the baby scoop era are to blame for losing their babies. she blames the mothers for their loss, does nothing to mitigate their guilt. and supposedly she and ARMS lobbied against an inquiry into illegal/unethical adoption practices in their state as was done in NSW. i have refused to buy her book because of this. claud, is your take on it different?
ReplyDeleteI definatly did not get that impression from this book at all.
ReplyDeleteNot one bit.
In fact, I would say a resounding NO!
It is a good book and worth a read. The factual data alone is fantastic.
I give five stars.
I realise that these comments were made some years ago, but I've just come across this blog. Thank you very much to those who have praised my work. I have since written three more books about adoption and, if you are interested, there is information on my web site (www.clovapublications.com). I thoroughly enjoyed the CUB retreats which I attended and have enjoyed all of my travels and all the amazing people I've met in different countries. Many of them still keep in touch with me. I'm sorry that one of your contributors has somehow come across some insulting and false information about me, which was spread some years ago by a particular person. These lies did stop after I threatened her with legal action, but, unfortunately, not before they had been spread around certain parts of the adoption world. I know that anyone who has met me, heard me speak or read anything I have written will know very quickly that none of that information is true and thank you to those who have confirmed that. I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt who said that the best way to make enemies is to try to change something. Well, I have certainly tried to change adoption and attitudes to mothers who have lost children to adoption and, along the way, I know I have made some enemies, but it's particularly sad that some of them are also mothers whose children have been taken from them to be adopted. Fortunately, all the positive comments about me and my work far outweigh the few negative ones, which don't reflect badly on me, they actually reflect badly on the people who made them in the first place. All I can say is that my work speaks for itself and if anyone wants to know what I believe and what I have achieved, the information is out there in the public domain for them to access. I feel for all whose lives have been affected by adoption separation and will continue to do my best to assist them in their healing. Kind regards, Evelyn Robinson
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