More Voices and Stories from Birthmothers
However outdated, and even, I know, with some of these voices, these becons of truth, completed or on hold or just sitting silent for a spell; this list of blogs from mothers, whatever you wish to call us: Birthmothers, firstmothers, biomoms, or CWBMs ...is worth a good read.
Want to understand the truth about adoption from the relinquishing mothers?
We'll tell you our truth as we lived as we continue to live separted from our children.Just read our blogs.
The Blogger feed below is from a collection of Birthmother blogs written from throughout the adoption community. I keep them on Friendfeed and then create the widget used below in RSSInclude. All are welcome to use the code and add to your own blog or website. This way you get the most recent blog post form birtmothers all in one place. Feel free to email me for the codes at fixadoption at gmail.com
~ as always, if you're not on the list and you wish to be ( or visa versa) just let me know!~
Adoption Sucks
this was a great resource to be able to read and relate to others who have been through the relinquishment of their first born baby. i would love to be included in this list to help others. being a first mother myself it is so helpful when you read others explain feelings that only first mothers experience.
ReplyDeleteI am a birthmother who gave birth in 1986 to a daughter, the birthdad wanted nothing to do with me and my parents were ashamed and forced me to give up my child. It was a private adoption. I was found in 2004 and my daughter was raised and still lived in the same zip code as i. I had no idea. After we met she was like part of the family and it was great for the first 3 years and then she became pregnant and has avoided me for 3 years now. I feel she is punishing me and not letting me know her daughter my only granddaughter. I found out earlier this year I am unable to have children. Which makes this even more difficult. However, she is in contact with the birthdad which drives me crazy. I am almost at the point of no return with a relationship with her. I have finally accepted who I am and that is just a person who gave birth and life to a child that wants nothing to do with me. I will never know what it is like to be a mother or grandmother. Her adoptive parents were not supportive at all and gave her guilt throughout the whole reunion. All I can do is move on with my life and hope I am not so bitter if she returns that I dont turn her away.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the list, there are many there I haven't seen yet. Could you add mine to the list too?
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Claud your resource-ability...if that is a word...amazes me...keep it going lady.
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ReplyDeleteThis is a really great site, and I hope you are able to achieve many of your goals.. if not all of them. I relinquished my son to adoption in 1974. We reunited briefly but he has been in pullback for some time now. I understand anonymous's post above. Somehow some of us picture reunion as something of a hallmark card movie and when pullback happens it is devastating. I suspect much of the unresolved grief of the original surrender hits us full force when we have a child leave our lives for a second or third time.
ReplyDeleteI'm thirty six years into this and I wish I could say it gets better, for me .. not so much.
I hate the damn fact that I had to lose to make another woman whole. Its just not fair
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